You never know when you’ll get the help you need from friends, and sometimes they may not even know they’ve given it to you. Thanks to some friends, I’m finally able to get back to my blog posts. Oh, I’ve started and stopped many times over the past few months, but I never really felt anything was good enough. I was feeling very insecure about my writing—thinking that no one would be impressed by it. So I basically gave up trying to write anything for the blog, and just stuck to other writing I needed to do—assignments from others. It’s often much easier to write for someone else than it is to write for yourself.
Then, yesterday, my friend, Toronto, Ontario writer Luigi Benetton posted this quote from writer Thornton Wilder (1897-1975) on Facebook, “If you write to impress it will always be bad, but if you write to express it will be good.”
Thank you, Luigi.
Seeing that quote gave me a much-needed boost, and made me realize that I perhaps had been trying to impress with what I was trying to write in my blog and since I couldn’t even impress myself, how could I expect anyone else to be impressed? That quote made me realize that it is much more important to keep writing the blog to express my thoughts or feelings and I hope, to educate or entertain my readers.
I was also having some trouble figuring out what to write about. In my last post, you might remember that I was all gung-ho about researching and writing about chronic pain management. I thought there might even be a book forthcoming. Well, one of the first things you have to do if you’re thinking about writing a book is to do your market research.
In doing this research [into the treatment and management of chronic pain,] I found that there are already a number of books out there on this subject, so the one I was thinking about doing wouldn’t really be anything new. It was time to move on—but to what?
Then, two of the people in my writing group at the 55 Plus Activity Centre here in Napanee said they’d be interested in collaborating on a story. So that gave me a new project, even though it didn’t really give me anything for the blog. These two people have been in my group for more than two years, and we’ve become friends. We’ve been meeting for several weeks and today, we did our final edits on the story. We’ve called it Strangers With a Connection, and you can connect to it from the Workshop page on my Captions Communications website.
Thank you, Susan and Lloyd.
In our session today, Susan thanked me for helping her with another story that she’s been working on for some time. What she may not realize (until she reads this) that it’s me who has to thank her.
Being there this morning, and have me help her with her story has my creative juices flowing again. She’s inspired me to get back to my writing—not to impress, but to express.
That’s what another friend, Boulder, Colorado writer and coach Lora Freeman Williams is doing with her blog and book, The Wilderness of Motherhood. She is expressing her feelings of feeling lost and finding her way again. Lora has been a great help to me with her Writer’s Life Academy, and we are going to chat about what directions I want to go with my writing career.
Thank you, Lora.
I doubt that Luigi knew what impact that quote he posted would have on me, and I don’t know if Susan realizes how much she’s helping me. Lora may not realize how much she’s already helped me, and I know I can learn more from her. We all need our friends to help us, and isn’t it wonderful when that help comes?
Of course there are lots of friends who help in more ways than I can count or mention. I feel very lucky indeed that I get a little help from my friends when I need it most.
I may have shelved the idea about the chronic pain book, but I haven’t completely given up on writing a book, and I’m sure my friends will help me along that journey too, so stay tuned.
What do you count on your friends for? How have they helped you even when they may not have know they did?