Understanding the invisibly wounded soldier

On November 11 we observe Remembrance Day in Canada. In other countries it is known as Armistice Day. It commemorates the signing of the agreement that ended the First World War at the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month in 1918. That was supposed to be the “war to end all wars” and of course we know it wasn’t. Sadly there has been another World War and there have been many other conflicts in Korea, Eastern Europe, Afghanistan, the Middle East, and many other parts of the world. Too many young men and women have died; many more have been injured physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. They are still suffering with those invisible wounds, the ones that have gone by different names and most recently known as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Too many have taken their own lives because they couldn’t bear the pain any longer.

Just before Remembrance Day in 2017 I had the honour to speak with a former member of Canada’s military Andrew Godin about his PTSD.  He told me that although things are getting better, there is still a long way to go to get soldiers the help they need. 

 From my conversation with Andrew I wrote an article for The Napanee Guide that I hope will help people to better understand the invisibly wounded soldier. Here is that article:

The Invisible Soldier: Many veterans living with the invisible wound, PTSD.

Published November 9, 2017: Napanee Guide, Postmedia Network

Napanee resident Andrew Godin was officially released from the Canadian military in 2006 but he lived with his invisible wounds from his years of service starting in 2003, and he still lives with those wounds. Godin, like many veterans, lives with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), and by telling his story, he hopes he helps others living with it too.

“We are getting better at getting over the hurdle of talking about PTSD, and treatments are getting better too, but there is a lot of work to do, and some men and women will still not talk about it, because they don’t want to jeopardize their careers,” Godin said.

After his diagnosis, he said that he was offered a very different job than the one he’d had as the Office Production Manager and Warrant Officer with the Mapping and Charting division—a new job that he felt he could not do. So he opted to leave the military, and still holds some resentment against those who were not willing to help him continue with the job he loved.

“I was dead to them, and after 20 years of service, it was a difficult decision to leave, but I was being ‘retired’ to this other job very fast, and I couldn’t do it.”

Godin said that he thinks there is still a lack of education and understanding about PTSD and how it affects people. He added that things are a lot better now, but there are things to work on: one of them being a better level of health services and consistency of services.

“There have been some services available in the past that are no longer available, because many thought, or think, the problem is over, that we’ve dealt with it, so it’s time to move on,” Godin said. “Changes to the Veterans Charter [where vets get a lump sum payment rather than a monthly pension] does not work for people with PTSD.”

Godin explained that some choose to self-medicate the symptoms of PTSD—sleeplessness, anxiety, depression, mood swings, etc. with alcohol or drugs, and they become addicts. They need something to kill the pain. When they have access to a lot of money, they are not capable of making rational judgement as to the wise use of those funds, and soon burn through them. Some sufferers with PTSD get to the point where they cannot cope anymore, or they can’t wait for treatment, and they commit suicide.

“It’s not the PTSD that gets you—it’s the other stuff related to it. I know more people who’ve died by their own hands than were killed in rotation. They were just tired of fighting every day. I know families that have been devastated by PTSD, and its effects,” Godin said.

“There is still a real lack of help for family members dealing with a spouse or family member with PTSD.

They unfortunately bear the brunt of the disease and become the front line support for these people and they neither have the support, resources or expertise in which to do so. I’m lucky to have the support of my wife, but I’m also not going to let this [PTSD] get me, so I’m still fighting every day.”

Godin said he doesn’t know how we have the conversation to talk about this invisible wound that no one really wants to talk about, or deal with. Veterans groups have started their own support groups, and being able to get together with friends at the Legion branch helps.

“It’s hard because everyone is off on their own agenda, and there are not enough resources—money or people—to help,” he said. “This isn’t limited to the military; it’s widespread that mental illnesses are not as well serviced as some physical ones, but we [the military] have to keep our eye on the target: doing a better job of helping our men and women who are dealing with this.”

Some programs that are helping offer veterans the opportunity to play golf, go horseback riding, or enjoy other sports. Their teammates are all veterans, so they have some shared experiences.  Some of these programs are privately funded; others funded through Legion branches. Currently there aren’t any of these programs in this area, but that could change. The Invictus Games that were held in Toronto had many participants who are living with PTSD, as well as those who’ve been physically injured. Godin said this recognition of the physical and mental illnesses that soldiers deal with helped bring the PTSD to the forefront. He added that he hopes that when people are thinking of veterans on Remembrance Day, they will not only honour the war dead, but honour the living too—especially those living with the invisible wound of PTSD.

“Something like the Invictus Games is great because it gave people a new purpose; a new focus, and it brought attention to the strength that soldiers have—the physical and mental toughness. So that’s a positive change for the future. We’ve come a long way, but there’s still a long way to go.”




My Eccentric Journey

Depending on how you pronounce it, the word “eccentric” has two meanings. I’ll let  you look it up, but you are either talking about a weird or off-beat character or characteristic, or you are talking about a type of movement. While either definition may be applicable to me, the  latter definitely is.  I am starting on a journey to become certified to teach Essentrics®. This is a fitness program designed to rebalance every part of the body through simultaneous stretching and strengthening of all 650 muscles. I’ll bet you didn’t know that you had that many muscles!  The program name uses the “soft c” pronunciation, with a different spelling: Essentrics®–tweaked by using part of the creator’s name: Miranda Esmonde White. Miranda is a former member of the National Ballet of Canada, and since developing this program, she has become a TV personality, author, much-sought after speaker, and of course, she is still teaching.

Miranda Esmonde White    

I’ve been following Miranda’s PBS program “Classical Stretch” for many years, and in the past five years, I’ve seen it change and become more popular. The PBS program seems to be geared more to Baby Boomers, but younger generations wanted this type of strength and stretch program, but maybe with a different name.  Miranda has written two books, and she and her team of instructors, which includes her daughter Sahra, have produced a number of DVDs and mini-videos, which are all available through the website.

Here is Sahra in an Introduction to Essentrics video:

I’ve introduced this program to friends, and now I’ve decided I will become a Level 1 Certified Essentrics® Instructor.  For now, I am an Apprentice Instructor. That’s where the “weird” or “offbeat” part of “eccentric” comes in.  If you’ve been following this blog, you know I have an eccentric form of humour. Telling myself that I could become a fitness instructor at age 65 might be the funniest joke yet. Yet, here’s the thing: I already have the support of family, friends,  a great group of Essentrics® instructors, and the Essentrics® training team, so I will do this. No joke.

This blog will become, in part, a record of this journey, which is just beginning. As with any journey, there will be bumps along the way, and there have already been some detours and delays. There is a lot of material for me to learn, and I have to [gasp] be filmed while teaching a class as part of my certification exam.

So why do this, and why now?

I love doing the exercises as they are a perfect antidote for my chronic pain and fatigue from fibromyalgia.  But who likes to work out alone? By becoming an instructor, I hope I will be able to help friends, family, and others improve their health by improving their posture, reduce or eliminate any pain they may have, tone their muscles, perhaps lose weight, and add an overall enjoyment to their life.  There are so many benefits to this program, which I hope they’ll appreciate and  understand from my teaching. At the very least, I’ll have company for my workouts! With the “milestone” birthday, I thought a new challenge was in order. I also want to, as Miranda and many others are  clearly doing, “age backwards.” (I think she’s 67, and I know there are many people,  including other instructors, who are doing this program well into their 70s and 80s, and beyond.)

Please join me on this eccentric/Essentrics® journey. I know it won’t be easy, but there will be some fun along the way. Who knows? Once I get my certification, you might like me to teach you!  So stay tuned.


You Say You Want a Resolution?

Years ago, John Lennon sang “You say you want a revolution?” Well, as I’m prone to do, I’m playing with those words making this  “You say want a resolution”—referring of course to New Year’s Resolutions. Some people will say, “oh I don’t make New Year’s Resolutions,” but I think they’re lying. How can you not think about looking ahead to the new year with a resolve to make it better than the one just ended? Even if 2009 was a great year for you, there’s always room for improvement isn’t there?

Since everyone’s doing their “Best of…” or “Top…” lists, I thought I might as well join in the fun. Here are some thoughts on three of the most popular resolutions:

Popular Resolution #1: Lose weight. How many of us have, or have had this as one of our top New Year’s Resolutions? I don’t anymore, but did for many years. Obviously, if I had to repeat it, I didn’t do very well at keeping it. So, while I don’t resolve to lose a specific amount of weight, I do want to keep improving my health, and that’s bound to lead to some weight loss. The trick will be to have it happen while I’m not thinking about it. By choosing foods that are better for my body, and having a daily regimen of some kind of exercise, I am bound to be healthier, and perhaps get back into those skinny black jeans hanging in my closet.

I still follow some of the practices I learned when I was working with a  Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) practitioner in 2009 and 2010. I have a chart on my office wall called  “A Guide To The Energetics Of Food” that divides foods into categories such as meats, grains, vegetables, herbs, nuts and seeds, fish, fruit, etc., and then charts what effects these will have on your body.  There are also notes on qi (pronounced chee), blood, yin and yang, tonifying and regulating foods.Copies of the chart, and other related books are available from the Redwing Book Company. I will be referring to the chart more often as I try to get, or keep, my life in better balance.

Chocolate isn’t on the chart, but hey, as I hope you’ve realized, and as my friend Doreen Pendgracs, author of Chocolatour: A Quest for the World’s Best Chocolate, always says: a day without chocolate is like a day without sunshine. I think we need plenty of both, especially during Canadian winters. So, ok, I do more exercise. (see below), and I am pretty careful with my diet, but as my dad used to say, “Everything in moderation, including moderation.”

Diet is only one part of a healthier lifestyle. Exercise, which to me is essential for losing weight, is also a key factor, which is why it is a popular resolution.

Popular Resolution #2:  Get More Exercise This is one I plan to keep, not only for this year, but every year. I picked up my walking two years ago, and now have a Nordic Pole Walking Group that I meet with every week–twice a week in the nice weather. Using Nordic Poles makes a walk into a workout as you are using 90 percent of your muscles. The poles also help with stability and balance. I find they take pressure off of my joints, which makes the walk more enjoyable too. Here’s a link to an article  I wrote for a website called Parks Blogger Ontario about Nordic Walking, and one of my favourite places to walk: the Dunes Trail at Sandbanks Provincial Park, near Picton, Ontario.

Here’s a photo of some of our group at Sandbanks in November 2015:


In addition to the walking I also do something I call “Dynamic Stretching.” The exercises are based on a program called Essentrics, which was developed my Miranda Esmond-White. She has been teaching this program for many years and has a popular PBS program called Classical Stretch. I have some of Miranda’s DVDs, and one featuring her daughter Sahra. I regularly follow the website, where she posts mini-workouts. Those are great to do while I’m at my desk. As I often stand at my desk, I already have a nice pad to stand on for the exercises. I have Miranda’s first book, Aging Backwards, which features all of her Essentrics exercises, and I am looking forward to getting her newest book, Forever Painless. 

These exercises are gentle, and yet when you do them for 20 or 30 minutes, you know you have worked all of your muscles. My goal is to do at least that much every day, but I won’t call it a resolution.

Popular Resolution#3 : Quit Smoking. I smoked for a very short time when I was 16 years old, but it never became a habit. I really didn’t like the smell or taste, and more importantly to me, I had better things to do with my money.  Both of my parents smoked, and most of my relatives smoked too.  Some of them still do, in spite of the fact that heart disease and stroke, two illnesses that have been linked to smoking, have caused many premature deaths in our family. My mother died in 2000 [at the age of 68] of Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD), directly linked to her smoking. She’d had two strokes and many mini-strokes in the three years before she died. Her doctor advised that she quit smoking while she still had a chance to beat the COPD—advice she didn’t take. I think her philosophy was that she was here for a good time, not a long time (as the song goes). I’d like to be here for a long time, and have a good time.

It saddens me how much of our lives and her grandchildren’s lives, including their graduations, weddings, and now their children, that my mother has missed.  I’m happy to say that my Dad quit smoking when he was 60 and I believe that added years to his life. I am so happy that he was in our life for another 25 years. He died in May 2016 from congestive heart failure and kidney disease related to his long-term diabetes. His doctors were amazed how long he’d live with the illness, and how well he’d managed it. He said he never regretted quitting smoking.

So it is possible, but I know it’s hard to do.  More information and help is available from your local health unit or the Heart and Stroke Foundation of Canada . The tobacco companies have continuously made their product more addictive, so this is likely the hardest thing you’ll do, but your friends and family, especially your children and grandchildren, will thank you.

Of course, there are other resolutions that people make, but these are the ones that seem to top the list, and it’s no surprise they are all related to health. I figured out a long time ago that if you don’t have your health, it really doesn’t matter what else you have, or want, because you can’t enjoy it, or do it well.

I’m making plans for, and hope that I will be more productive with work, make more money doing what I love to do—write and teach—and do more travelling. All of those things will add up to a pretty terrific year. But I’ll settle for just being healthier. The rest will follow.

I wish you all a happy, healthy, and prosperous New Year, and I’d love to hear about your resolutions, and whether you make them now or not.

Updated from December 31, 2009

Don’t miss the 10th Annual Downtown Shopping Party!

While some may have it all done, the Annual Downtown Napanee Shopping Party is what others wait for to get their Christmas shopping in full gear–and get it done! The 10th Annual party is all set for this Friday, December 15, from 6 to 9 p.m. Spearheaded by Cat Monster at Starlet Boutique, this event has more than 30 businesses participating this year, and many will have special treats, discounts, displays and activities.

Downtown shopping party

Along with giving residents and visitors a chance to have some fun and get some shopping done, this is also a time when the merchants give back to the community as a thank you for the support shown to them all year. Non-perishable food and cash donations will be gathered at the various shops for several charities including MorningStar Mission, the Salvation Army, Interval House, and the Sandy Pines Wildlife Centre.

“That’s the main drive behind the Shopping Party,” Cat said. “We want the community to help us help these charities that help so many, especially at this time of year.”

The Big Bright Light Show will light the way as you make your way from store to store checking out all of the activities. Here are just a few highlights to entice you:

Santa will be at Chill: Lifestyle for Kids ready to have photos taken. One or two of his reindeer will be visiting from the Sherwood Reindeer Farm, where they spend a lot of time.

Santa Chilling Out

Music will be in the air and in the cafes. Carollers from Trinity United Church may be going from store to store singing traditional favourites, and there will be music to listen to while you relax in our cafes and restaurants. Check out the Loaf ‘N’ Ale and Waterfront River Pub & Terrace for live bands once the stores have closed.

Wagon rides will be available so you can see the lights and enjoy the wonderful holiday atmosphere.  When you need a break, stop by one of the cafes.

Coffee Cravings will be open serving specialty holiday drinks and its famous coffees and teas. Artist Bill VanWart will be “hanging out” showing his art work, and every donation brought in for the MorningStar Mission nets a ballot to win either a painting by Mr. V or a coffee treat basket.  This is an example of Bill’s work:

Bill Van Wart painting

Ellena’s Cafe will have featured guests, including artist Peggy Collins, who will be offering her “I’ll draw anything Round 2.” Peggy will spend five or ten minutes making a special drawing for you for $10, and part of the proceeds will be given to charity.  Here’s an example of Peggy’s drawing [from her Facebook page]:

peggy collins, 2


Musicians Stephen Bruce Medd, Barry Lovegrove, and Steve Tanner will be providing entertainment while you enjoy  Ellena’s delicious treats. My favourite is the chocolate haystack. I hope she’ll have some on Friday night!  Stephen Medd (seen in a photo from an Open Mic night at the Loaf ‘N’ Ale) is a regular performer around town, and loves to share his songs about Napanee.  Barry and Steve are also well-known and often play at Ellena’s when the local “Humstrummers” gather, and at many other events.

Steve Medd

The entire downtown core will be buzzing with activities. At Seasons Fine Foods, Dufflet Cakes will have truffles, macarons and Euro Tarts. Fine food, indeed! Check out Chef Pat’s posts on her Facebook page to see some photos!

Many  other stores, too numerous to mention here, will have specials , so be sure to allow plenty of time to visit them. You’ll also need time to visit with friends and family who also will be enjoying the party.

“It’s incredible how much this has grown,” Cat said. “I still remember the first year when we had a terrible blizzard, but people still came out. So, no matter what the weather is, we know it will be a great party, Buddy the Elf and Jovvie will be there, and we hope that everyone will remember their donations for the charities we are all supporting.”

My Juggling Act

How do we do it? How do freelancers—and others– keep all of the (insert one) balls in the air, plates spinning, knives tossing?—whatever analogy you want to use. How do you manage your juggling act?

  • What tools do you use to keep yourself organized?
  • How do you pick up when something gets dropped, or a connection lost?

And, perhaps most the most important question, and one that we don’t consider often enough:

  • How do you take care of yourself so you don’t get burnt out—or worse—sick from trying to do too much?

These are questions we’ll be asking members over the next few weeks in our conversations with  the Freelance Writers’ Connection group I co-manage on LinkedIn. Please join the conversation, either in the group, here on this blog, or both.

How do you manage your juggling act? Here’s what I am trying to juggle right now:

  • reporting local events for  The Napanee Guide (my newest freelance gig)
  • freelance writing for magazines and journals
  • promoting and teaching writing workshops
  • being the Ontario regional director for the Professional Writers Association of Canada (PWAC)
  • helping to organize the professional development sessions at PWAC’s 2017 conference
  • leading or co-leading two fitness activities in my community

Don’t get me wrong. I love my work, and I’ve chosen to do this volunteer work with PWAC and other volunteer work in my community, which includes the fitness activities. I chose to be a group leader so that I make sure I show up!

I know—lots of people have a list as long as mine or longer. I didn’t even add in the personal stuff—time with my husband and friends, and keeping in touch with friends—not that those aren’t important, because they are very important—but while they should be at the top of the list, they often get put down to the bottom.

Lots of people juggle paid work, volunteer work, family time, etc. I am not complaining, and this list is in no way in the order of the importance of the people, and things in my life. I am lucky to have a husband who supports me in so many ways, and often helps with my work. I am lucky that we have sons who want to share their busy lives with us, and keep in touch. I am lucky to have good friends to spend time with, and keep in touch with online. I am lucky to have colleagues to share the challenges and frustrations of my work. I am lucky to have the opportunity to share the fitness activities I enjoy with others.

Like our Nordic Pole Walking Group, sponsored  by the L & A Seniors Outreach Services in Napanee. We are now 18 members strong, and will keep walking all winter! Some of these women join me in my “Strength and Stretch” group at the SOS. (Photo courtesy of Grace Vanderzande.) dscn0981

So how am I keeping all of this straight? I am trying to use my Google calendar more—mark everything down and add reminders. That calendar shows up on my phone and tablet too, so I have those devices to help keep me organized. Maybe there are other tips you can share on how you juggle the things in your life. One thing—that personal stuff that often gets put down to the bottom of the list—they are getting moved up.

This week, our social calendar is full with three events in a row—a meeting with other creative people in our community to find out about local arts and culture in the Town of Greater Napanee, and two concerts. So that will help balance out the work and get me away from the computer. If it sounds like I’m “all work and no play,” that is definitely not the case.

I just need to find ways to juggle the new paid work—the writing and the teaching—which I am thrilled to have—with all of the other things I’ve been doing, and want to keep doing.

I’ve been a freelance writer for almost 20 years, and I’ve done this juggling act before, so I know I will manage it better in the coming days, weeks and months than I have in the past month. I don’t know why it seems harder now. I’m not going to spend a lot of time trying to figure that out. I’m just going to get on with it, and I am secure in the knowledge that if a ball doesn’t get tossed, a plate doesn’t spin, or a knife doesn’t get tossed, my juggling act will still go on, and everything will get done when it needs to be done.

So, this week’s question: How do you take care of yourself when your life gets so busy that you’re on the go all the time?

A perfectly planned Australian holiday

While getting away on holiday is great, the planning can be stressful. Especially if you are travelling thousands of kilometres away to Australia and you may only have a few weeks to travel. You want to make the best of your time away. What if you had someone not only suggest the best use of your time, but also offer ideas of how and when to travel, and give you an idea of the cost? Well, you have all of this and more, thanks to Michela Fantinel  in her book, Your Australia Itinerary, published by her company,  Rocky Travel.



(On Goodreads and Amazon the book is listed as“The Ultimate Guide to Australia Itineraries” with a different image.)

Michela, who is Italian, spent more than 10 years travelling solo around Australia and she outlines the many things that there are to do and see in this country she loves so much. While her suggestions are geared to women travelling alone, they are good for couples and families too. In about an hour, this 85-page e-book will help you learn about the varied attractions Australia has to offer—no matter what kind of holiday you are looking for.  Everything from the coastal ocean roads and beaches to the desert Outback to the vibrant cities and everything in between is covered. Michela is your personal trip planner and she will help you decide just what is right for you—depending on your budget, desired mode of transportation, and required accommodation. There are maps, charts, and other detailed outlines to plan your trip, and Michela even provides four sample itineraries for each different type of vacation: landmarks, cities, beaches, nature and wildlife—you’ll find it all carefully outlined, along with beautiful photographs to entice you. Then, in about a week, you’ll have your trip planned.

In each section, you’ll find how to break down your trip so it is at the pace you want. You’ll learn the best type of trip for you,  depending on the time of year, weather, and other considerations. And—and this is the biggy—you’ll get estimates of costs, and ways to customize the trip.

I really wish we’d had this book before going to Australia in September 2015. The nice thing is that after reading the book, I know that we actually got a lot of things right. Now I’ll know how to make the next trip even better.

Your Australia Itinerary is available as a PDF or in iTunes. The Apple format is a little more interactive, but both give great information. With each download from Michela’s website you get information on how to contact Michela for a free 15-minute consultation to discuss any details about your trip, and you also get a savings on Michela’s trip planning services. You can sign up for Michela’s blog, and learn more about her travels on her website, www.Rockytravel.net

Take the stress completely out of planning a trip to Australia and let Michela Fantinel help with this “Ultimate Guide to Australia Itineraries” to make this your perfectly planned holiday.

Dealing with dumping a client—or getting dumped—it’s all going to be okay

In my last post, I talked about how dealing with clients is easy—and it isn’t. Thanks to everyone who posted a reply. One of my followers, travel writer Doreen Pendgracs, said that sometimes it’s necessary to end a relationship with a client, and she’s absolutely right. Sometimes it isn’t worth your time and energy to stick with a particular client—and it could be costing you money to do so.

How do you know when you need to end the relationship?

If a client doesn’t pay, or pay on time. Of course there are exceptions, like the client might be going through a temporary slump and has to delay payment, or you may choose to write for a particular client for free once in a while for your own reasons, but generally, if you’re finding that a client isn’t paying, or payment is always delayed—it’s time to cut the cord. I had a client whose cheques bounced. The first time it happened, I let it go, and accepted his apology and new payment. The second time it happened, I asked that the cheque be covered plus interest to cover the delay, which I received. The third time, I asked for the payment in cash, and told him I wouldn’t be writing for him anymore. Three strikes—you’re out. I let the first two times go because I liked this client and enjoyed the work I was doing for him, but it seemed to have become a pattern that, according to him, “the bank just isn’t following my instructions to transfer funds.” So I had to cut him loose.

If the pay is consistently low Clients can also cost you money if the pay is low,(or lower than you are willing to accept) because even though it may be steady work, it’s taking time away from you being able to find higher paying clients. I was in this situation for too long and had to really step out of my comfort zone and start doing the legwork necessary—research and pitching—to find better clients and it paid off.

If the work isn’t what you expected. With some clients the work may start out well and then take a turn in a direction you didn’t expect, and don’t like. I had a client who wanted me to write articles that really made me uncomfortable, and I didn’t like that he was asking for more than we’d originally agreed upon, but was not willing to pay a higher fee. If it doesn’t feel right, it likely is going to get worse rather than better, so it’s time to let go.

Sometimes it’s the client that lets you go, which isn’t fun, but it happens and you have to learn to bounce back and move on. As another friend, writer Suzanne Boles says, “Let rejection fuel you.”  Suzanne’s advice is to turn being rejected by a client into something positive by letting it energize you into working harder and finding even better clients.

Travel writer Roy Stevenson, a member of The Freelance Writers’ Connection, had a post on his blog, Pitch, Travel, Write that dealt with The bright side of rejection letters. It’s good to know that others have dealt with this and found a positive way out.

I regularly read the posts on the site The Write Life, and I thought this post fit here: There are some great tips on how to cope when a writing client dumps you.

I’ve been dumped a few times, and it was nice to know that it usually wasn’t my work the client didn’t like, but their business that was going in a different direction, and they no longer needed my services. I’ve had very nice recommendations from them that I can use to find other clients. Of course there have been clients who weren’t happy with what I wrote, but even though I didn’t meet their expectations, I sometimes got paid for the time I’d put in because they recognized that I’d made my best effort.

The bottom line is that sometimes you’ll get dumped by a client and sometimes you have to be the one who dumps the client. Either way, know that everything will work out in the end, and you’ll get the clients who you want—and who want you.

Have you ever had to end a client relationship, or been dumped by a client? How did you deal with it?